Category: the Rant Board
Some people persuaded me to put this post in here, so I decided to go post this one. Anyway, I just wonder how can some people in here laugh at those other users that have multiple disabilities such as: bipolar, autism, emotional and behavioral disorders, people who have difficulty in their speech, and some other disabilities that affect the way they respond and interact to others in here. Why are these people discriminating towards those people with severe disabilities? What’s your purpose for doing these things, does it make you feel any better to laugh at someone who have worse than what yoou have? I really don’t get it. All of us have some type or form of disability, I just don’t get why people do the things they do. You should be thankful that you can still function better than other people in here. Instead of laughing or ridiculing them, why don’t you at least give them respect. You know they are people too, and that they deserve to be respected. I know they went here in this site because they thought that they can be themselves, they can find people that can relate to them, they want to make new friends, and that they thought that people are going to be accepting of them because everyone in here has a disability, but instead they get this crap from other people. I feel really bad for those people that were laughed at because of the severity of their disability. Hey, it’s not their fault they became like that. This is the only thing I can think of when people laugh at someone who have worse than them, it makes them feel good because they have low self esteem and they are insecure of themselves, and the only way to make themselves feel better is putting others down.
What if you were the one being laughed at, what would you feel? Put yourself in another people’s situations, so that you’ll understand what I’m talking about. It’s not fun to be laughed at, so don’t laugh at anyone who have worse than you. Just be thankful that your still capable of doing things. Instead of laughing at those people, why don’t you try to help them out?
Feel free to agree or disagree with me. I’m just trying to put a point across, so that people will have some appreciation for what they have. Look, you can feel very irritated because you were made blind, deaf, or have difficulty talking, but at least you can stilll think straight, and you can still feel emotions and respond to something. Now, it’s up to you to make the best or the worse of your actions. Hope though that some of you would come to realize that your better than some people here. Most of you have only minor physical disabilities while others have worse. Try to understand their situation. They said the mind was made to help us think clearly, so think about this first before responding to my post. “hey always remember, your disability is just a part of you, it’s not what makes who you are. If your blind, deaf or have trouble speaking then you only have a minor physical problem. You can still think straight and decide what is the right and wrong thing to do with regards to this situation. I hope you realized something after readint this. This post is not intended be mad at anyone, it’s just a daily reminder that we should all apply not only here, but also in our lives.
in short, people are people. 100% agreed. Unfortunately, there are very sad, shallow people,who don't think like that and they to, imho, ought to be pitied. As I said though, agreed, and well put.
Also agree. that's why in the past i complained about people creating topicks on the boards like who hasn't got a hot voice. Why should some users to be mentioned just because they happen to have a voice that some users don't consider it a good one?
They didn't choose their voice. They just have to accept it whatever it is.
Well said Nicos and Simon. Agreed. You only have to listen to my profile to know I didn't choose my voice. That is actually how I sound, that's the way my voice is and it's just something that can't be helped. If there was such a thing as a voice transplant, well, I'd make sure I was first on the list for it, but, as it is, people're always going to think I have a hearing impairment and possibly think, quite wrongly, thatI have learning difficulties as well as my cleft lip and pallet and no vision what so ever, due to how my voice sounds. I just have to accept the way I am myself, but if other people can't, well that's just sad. If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all.
Jen.
Your audio profile is good Jen. Very informative. If anyone was doing profiles like yours it would be nice. And don't worying about people not liking your voice. If they don't they are not worth your attention. Just ignore them.
well said prettygurl! but as simon says, it takes all sorts to make a world unfortunately, even on the net. :(
lol jen what's wrong with your voice? Sounds ok to me. na, agree with nikos on that one. but yeah, as everyone has said, people are people, seems those who laugh at others' imperfections ought to look at their own first before passing judgement.
I agree that people shouldn't be laughed who have worse disabilities. I don't know about myself but I am blind have epilepsy and depression also suffer from panick attacks some times. I don't know if that is moltable disabilities or not.
In the begining I'd only 1 and no one really laughed at me, since the accident it's easier for eejits to pick on me and laugh to amuse themselves,feck it doesn't take much with their miniscule brains.
The thing of it is, most of these people can't speak up for themselves, so it's up to yourself Prettygurl to do it loud and often.
Stevie.
Yes, thanks for the previous comments. I always observe this site. I usually just keep my mouth shut, but I know more than what I can tell. Anyway, upon my observations, I always see or hear people that make fun of others out of nowhere. I always caught different people making fun of others because of the person’s difficulties. It’s not their fault they were made to have what they have. They are people too, they deserve to be respected. Why were they doing this? I’m not pointing fingers at anyone because most of us have done these types of behavior before. The only explanations I gathered was because they were board, they thought that the other person was lesser than them, the person sounded weird or funny because of their speaking difficulties, they were saying or doing things differently which others perceived as being weird or crazy in a negative way. I’m talking about people who immediately change their behavior due to having behavioral and emotional disorders or bipolar disorders. Most of the time, they can not control their behavior and I’m pretty sure that they did not intend to say or do whatever they did to look foolish in front of the majority. I thought that this site would have a broader perspective when it comes to dealing with these types of things because most of us have already encountered this situation in the past, but I was wrong. Whether we like it or not, we have a disability whether it be a sight problem, hearing impairment, speech difficulty or behavioral disorder, it is still considered as a disability. The least we could do is to accept the person for what they are and also the most important thing be happy with what we have. People who make fun of others are putting themselves lower than where they usually stand. I know you are all smarter than this, so better do the right thing. Think of your imperfections first before making fun of others.
If your going to come on this site and make an idiot of your self I will not treat you any differnetly then I would a fully sighted person, or a person who had just blindness. It's a sighted world out there, learn to adapt or fail those are your choices. Sure some things can be made more accessible in order to help you function, but there's no reason I'm not going to tell someone like download87 that she's filthy and needs to learn to bathe because that's how the world works. If someone is mentally handicapped and comes on making an idiot out of them selves I will tell them there being an idiot, and try to suggest ways to not be such an idiot in the future, if they continue there idiodic behavior I'm not going to make excuses for them.
Yeah, at least your telling them what to change instead of laughing at them. That will work out. if after that they still want to make a fool out of themselves, then i think that my board post does not apply to people who does not want to change for the better. You do have a good point.
Cassandra, more people need to think like you. I wonder why it's human nature to get pleasure from another's pain. It's so wrong on multiple levels. I helped on summer with the special olympics. It was one of the most rewarding things I've ever done. Those kids had pure goodness. Stay on your soapbox and speak for those that can't speak so elequently for themselves.Your love for others shines through.
Thom
I've always respected people with multiple db's.
Especially Steware Bentler.
A friend of mine in high school who got picked on because of being in a wheelchair and dislexic.
One time in a science class, some kids picked on him, and he just broke down crying!
I said "wait here, don't move a muscle", walked over to the kids (during class, mind you all) and said: "if any of you mother fuckers ever pick on my friend again, I'm gonna be pissed off!".
While i was saying that, I glared at them and gritted my teeth.
Later, at the end of the class, the teacher asked me and Stewart to go outside for a moment while, she, well, gave a screaming session at the kids.
Finally, she came out with us and gave me and Stewart a hug.
He saya "it's great to have a friend like Jason".
She goes "i know".
She tells me "i'm proud of how you stood up for him today. Can i get you or Stewart anything?"
I wanted a soda and he wanted a chocolate milk.
She got them for us.
And btw, the soda was the bottle kind, not the can! Which made my day!
And Stewart loved that chocolate milk, too!
All I can say is, if you can't laugh at them, who can ou laugh at? jk jk
But some times people cant control what they are doing or saying due to Mental health problems or mental disabilities. Like today at college it was so noisy in the canteen it was to noisy for me but I didn't say anything. I don't think my guide dog liked it iether but I kept on stroking him. I heard one of the carers say she was exsosed after getting people ready to go to class. In my college we have a mixture of disabilities.
Oh, I know you're kidding, but we could always laugh at ourselves for being so petty and lacking in empathy. That's a good joke, eh? Hahahahahaha!
I think that this is an interesting conversation, but for a different reason,. I have come from the sighted arena into the blind arena this year because of glaucoma. It is causing some pretty substantial changes in my lifestyle, but only to a point.
I have never been one to make fun of others, especially when they are dealing with a life challenge. I am a fairly sensitive person. But what some of you need to realize is that the majority of the world does not see things the way you do. They will not always act in a manner that pleases you, or agrees with you. We live on a very large planet, and it turns a lot of different ways for a lot of different people. That does not make them right or wrong, it just means that they have a lot of different ways of looking at the same puzzle pieces we do. That being said, there are also some very cruel people in the world. Ignore them.
Don't get me wrong here...I do not think that humiliating people because they are different is ok. I am just suggesting that you allow people to be who they are, without going on a holy quest to show them the error of their ways and get them told off. Think about how much physical energy you spend by getting all wound up and torqued off because you think they are wrong. Take that energy and put it into developing your own understanding of yourself, learning a new skill, reading, spending time with the people who matter most, giving your time as a volunteer...the possibilities are endless. It is ok for people to approach problems differently. And it is also ok to not like the way some people act. But if we want to effect a change in people's behavior as a whole, we can only do so through our own consistent demonstration of what we desire to receive from other people.
Just remember that there are three truths in the world when you approach the end of each day:
1. The people who matter most will still love you dearly.
2. The people who hate you will still hate you.
3. All that matters is how you choose to make the best of the lifetime you have been given.
Okay making fun of ANYONE whether they are disabled or not is wrong. I stood up for the disabled students in my high school, more so the ones who couldn't stand up for themselves.
I walked with a boy who happend to have autism for graduation, It made his day and his parents couldn't thank me enough It's like I wanted to, I went to school with the guy for three years and we had some similar interests so I considered him a friend. I cannot stand when I am in a store somewhere and I see people staring at someone who is "different" For instance we have siamese twins in our state mainly in Reading. BUt it's like it turns into a gawking session whenever they do their shopping it's like how would you like if someone stared at you when u were shopping I'm sure you'd be uncomfortable. The ladies are very nice people they have even guest starred on Nip/tuck.
I do not make fun of anyone because well I can't i do not have the heart to. If anything I befriend the person who is being made fun of and stand up for them. Anyway that's where I stand on that topic. GOD BLESS
when i was in high school, i was picked on horribly because of my blindness. one morning, i was walking down the hall of the backside of building 5 in my school, when this boy came out of the computer lab and punched me square in the jaw. then he ran off. that same day as i was waiting at the bus stop to go home, the same thing happened again only this time my twin sister happened to see it. she leaped over the bench and pinned the boy against a pole and said, "if u ever punch or hurt my sister again, i will make sure u r thrown out of school."
my sister really got into alot of fights during our high school years because of people picking on me. i thank her from the bottom of my heart for standing up for me though. the last day of grade 10, the bus driver let me sit in seat 8 because i was always bitching about having to sit directly behind him. i was minding my own business when i smelled this strong smell of shaving cream. i asked the other kids what was going on. they said that they were shaving. my sister came back to sit with me only to find out that the kids had sprayed shaving cream and thrown confettey all over me. she started crying and said how can u ass holes be so cruel. she hit the guy who started it all. and the thing is, the bus driver was laughing along with the kids. god i was extremely upset. i didnt scream at the kids though as i knew that they would start laughing all over again.
he just punched you?
That is a shame.
P.S. Jen, I don't mind your voice at all.
:)
yes, he came out of the computer lab and punched me square in the jaw and ran off.
my jaw was swollen and bruised because of that kid. and ever since then, i have had problems with it locking and popping and hurting.
oh and btw jen, it is not cool if people make fun of you because u have a cleft palate. i had a friend with one who told me stories about how she got picked on all the time when she was a kid because of hers.
Well somanea, him punching you was an act of cowardous.
Oh and Jen, I know someone with the same problem as you and I never would poke fun.
yes it was, very much so.
it's a shame.
I agree with Prettygurl. I highly respect people with multiple disabilities. I'm fortunate to only have blindness. I know that there are a lot of people who have it much much worse than I do, and I respect them for trying to go out into the world and making something of themselves. I'm not the type of person that hates people unless I have a good reason, and laughing at people with multiple disabilities is a good reason.
true james. same here
People who make fun of others are horrible, heartless, mindless, emotionless, senseless, soulless, no good, sick fucks, with nothing to to with their time, a shittn mental condition, who are stuck up and evil because of who they are. It is usually those with the severe physical or other disabilities or fatal conditions who have seen their own death who have the purer minds.
I think it's all in how it's done. I mean, if you do the thing where the little bastard just punches you in the jaw for no unearthly reason, firstly he's hitting a girl which is wrong on all kinds of levels and secondly he knew you couldn't see him so he knew he wouldn't get in trouble, unless someone of authority was just happening on the scene. But if you make fun of someone of someone with a disability, and they know it's a joke, like if you guys are friends and you make a joke to them that other people may find offensive, but the 2 of you know is a joke, then I don't see a problem. bbut ifit's done of pure evil then yeah, that's definitely wrong.
Remember Somanea there's two sides to every story. Maybe you diserved to get punched in the jaw?
I don't see what she would have done to deserve to get punched in the jaw.
It's a shame that people can be so evil to each other. It also sucks that some sighted people think that they can get away with it. Nobody has the right to pick on anybody no matter what the reason because that kind of taunting can lead to horrible emotional problems and even complete fear of social situations. People need to think about how their words and actions impact others. We all should be watchful of our words because people remember the things that are said to them and the bad stuff usually sticks.
actually. people would leave me alone when my aide walked with me, but that morning, i was walking totally by myself. there was no one around when that boy punched me. the hall was totally deserted.
and to the roman battle mask. i never did anything to anybody in that school to hurt them. alot of the kids were just plain cruel. that's all. i mainly hung with my clique to avoid cruel people who were out to hurt me..
i agree with posts 30 and 31.
I doubt she "asked for" that punch.